So, mommies, discuss: should I have another child? I can barely afford the one that I have, but I don’t know how I feel about Sophie not having a sibling.
Pros? Cons?
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Have another child. There will NEVER be enough money. Ever. But the joy a child brings is just priceless. Also? I was an only child for 10 years. And while it was fun, it was also lonely. And there are pros to being an only child, of course-you become very independent and you become pretty mature pretty fast. However, I always wanted a sibling. By the time my brother came along, I was over it. And then when HE was 9, our sister was born. Needless to say, we have all been only children, in a sense. And now? Now my baby girl is an only child. She’s 5, and she hates it. She is such a social butterfly, and she has been begging me for a brother or sister for over 2 years. Sadly, that won’t happen any time soon (pending divorce of doom and all), but I see the sadness in her eyes when there’s no one to play with. So, I say if you love children and want another, GO FOR IT.
So that’s one for yes.
No one regrets having more kids.
Lots of people regret not having more.
Two for yes.
YES. and do it soon!
there is nothing on earth like the connection between my two.
nothing. it’s amazing.
of course, we were so infatuated with our son that it was hard to imagine ruining his life by giving him a sibling. and i did not think i could love another.
i was wrong, happy so say.
the best, best, best.
and two don’t really cost much more than one, at least now when they’re little.
college? ah, we have time to figure that out.
Three for yes.
Two? Yes.
Three?
Oh crap, I gotta get that.
Its the doctors office calling to get every possible tube tied in my body…
Four for yes.
My daughter was an only child. She still complains. She due for her second child in about a month.
It comes down to what you can handle. I was not the mommy type. One was my limit.
One for maybe.
I’m with Danielle – if you wait until you have enough money, Sophie will forever remain an only child.
That said, the decision to have a second is (as you well know) a highly personal one. If you’d really like another and money is your only concern? Go for it.
One caveat: anyone who tells you two isn’t that much more work than one is obviously clinically insane. Two alternates between gloriously fun and completely from hell. I don’t know how people manage to get past two, because I’m about ready to give my husband a vasectomy in his sleep.
Five for yes.
This always happens to me. I’m the last one to the party, *and* no one wants to talk to me because I have the unpopular opinion.
Having another “for the sake of a sibling” strikes me as off.
Because you cannot bear not to?
Because it makes sense for your family?
Of course.
So, I guess…. Maybe?
I’m pretty firmly in the one-and-done camp, though. I have parented up to four over the years, and raised (am currently raising) so many babies. So, I’m biased.
what! all i wanna do is talk to you!
sheesh.
oops. and play with Nigel. ahem.
wouldn’t the be your wife’s decision?
I don’t think you yourself could have a baby.
snort.